Journal Entry #654
June 1st, 2012
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You can’t have it all folks. If you want the career as an example you will probably give up the family and vice versa. Life is a balance so chose wisely what you value when you are young as this will set the tone for your life and remember everything you do will affect others so think of the consequences before you make your choices.
Everything you do will get boring, get old so be in it for the long haul and the little rewards along the way. This one decision of choosing what you will stand for in life will determine your path far more than you can imagine.
When asked what you will fight for you should not hesitate to know the answer but make sure that answer will serve you well in all aspects of your life not just the moment you are in and your feelings right now as they will change.
So many have not figured this out and spend their entire life trying to find the answer. Of course they want the easy fix and are not willing to do the work required for the long haul. When it does not work out as they planned they run or give up and to me this is the problem. They give up because they do not have convictions, because they have not decided what is worth fighting for in life and will simply move on to the next thing which is actually their conviction. I hope you get this one very important point I just made.
I find this pathetic to give up so easily. If something is worth starting then it is worth finishing. This is never more obvious than in relationships. This is why I said choose wisely and don’t just jump in and commit until you are actually truly ready to commit and not do what feels good for the moment. Moments always change.
Personally I figured this out long ago with a couple of key values, ideals or convictions that I would be willing to fight hard for and I do believe these are worth sharing. Now I can only control my actions and not others and they will follow what they have chosen. Don’t be fooled as we all choose something even if it is to not make a choice or commitment and to give up as this will be your conviction. What you chose will become your habit of behaviour in life and until you value another will set the tone for you and those who you affect. This is why I say to not take this lightly.
First realize that you cannot have it all, there is not enough time as this will be a contradiction. I am not telling others they are right or wrong but that all we do will have consequences along the way so be prepared to pay this price and don’t whine unrealistically when that price comes.
The idea is to know which battles you are willing to fight and why you are willing to fight them.
We all want to be valued in life, to be seen as important in the eyes of others and how you go about doing this will demonstrate the convictions you have chosen when you were younger. Most people pretend they are lost but really they are not but are not willing to recognize what they have chosen. Can this change? Yes it can but it is not easy to break the habits we form when we are young.
In essence on any matter you will chose one of 2 options you will run or you will fight so once this is recognized and accepted you have a great start to life.. Have no illusion these are the only 2 options on all your interactions.
I will say this if you are going to run on anything don’t pretend that you are willing to fight because this will be a lie to yourself and all those around you.
You will always be passionate about something….
What I chose;
I chose as my number one value to seek the truth always.
Now this will not usually be what I want to hear, what I want in life but I realized that lies will only lead to more lies and that train will always crash so it was better to know the truth be it bitter than to believe a lie that sounded sweet because underneath the sugar is what counts.
I chose to not commit lightly and to think through all the consequences to critically think but when I do commit to stay the course.
I chose to value family above all in my relationships and to not compromise on this keeping in mind I can only control what I do and not the actions of others.
I chose to walk the talk or to shut my mouth.
I chose to fight as best I could to right the wrongs in this world.
I chose to figure out my strengths and to concentrate on them while recognizing my weaknesses and working on those that were worth working on.
I chose to be passionate about my battles.
I chose to realize I can be wrong on anything.
I chose to the best of my ability to not let others bring me to their level but to show them they could rise to mine. I realized this would be the path of most resistance but I
was willing to be that example and accept the condemnation and hate that followed as a result of comfort zones being broken.
There is more but this is the essence of who I am and what I have chosen as my path.
I do believe I have chosen wisely even though at times it feels as if I have not. So again when you are asked the question what will you fight for in life I hope you know the answer because you will always fight for something even if it is to run so choose wisely..
What I have offered here will be evident in all we do as human beings and will affect all of our actions. It is the core of what is going on in our world and why I talk about it.