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Who Hijacked Reality / #684 The bubble principal.

Tuesday, August 21st, 2012

Journal Entry #684

August 21st, 2012

Each day as I do my best to embrace life I see so many others caught up in the struggle to live in their bubbles. Many of these bubbles are so small that I can see the pain of existing in them in the eyes of those walking around.

I see glimpses of people who have their heads hanging down as to look up is a strain realizing they are trapped trying to escape but they simply don’t know how. Many are trying to find themselves. Often this is done later in life as they finally realize they have been living a lie but still they don’t know what to do and many often take the wrong path trying to escape.


Carrying all that baggage becomes difficult and pushing that bubble around becomes exhausting.

It really is not that hard and all we have to do is ask and seek answers to some central questions and they will define who we are. Once we know who we are the bubble is burst and life takes on new meaning. The drama, lies and secrets seem to disappear and a calm surrounds us.

Personally I figured this out very early in life;

I guess I figured out the secret if you will to be comfortable in your own skin. For me the journey started early say around 8 years old as I had some very traumatic events take place in my life.

These events propelled me to ask the big questions and seek out answers. I am still looking but along the way I solidified some very basic answers that have stood the test of time. I truly like myself. I always have…

This has served me well..

I can only be a guide for others and there are those moments when I see people escape that is uplifting for me but they are few and far between.

I will offer my thoughts in the pictures and words I have written lately but again I have one central message that really is the foundation for all we do. It will be up to you to find it for yourself.

I have my days as well but the core of who I am easily gets me through these little humps.

These pictures are all original and part of my daily life. Some I offer words and others I feel just stand well on their own.

Please share the love and enjoy…

 

 

Seek the truth always

Gary David Currie

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Who Hijacked Reality / #658 Abandonment

Tuesday, June 5th, 2012

Journal Entry #658

June 5th, 2012

This is another of those topics that I have been holding back on until the right time and as I woke up this morning it just felt right. For me this is one of humanities biggest problems. It is a result of others running away and not honouring their commitments. Not dealing with things when they become uncomfortable and they always will and valuing others. It can lead to disastrous consequences for all.

Being abandoned is the most devastating emotion we can cause in another human being as we have destroyed their trust and sense of self worth that they placed in us.

As I have said to many; ”There will come a point when something I do or say will offend you, challenge you and force you to step out of your comfort zone and how you handle this will be the measure of who you truly are.”

Now I will relate my story here and while I am not looking for others to feel sorry for me I am sure there will be many that can empathize.

Since I am all about reality and truth there would be no point sugar coating this and there will be those who read this who will see what I say different but this is my view on it.

I like to think of myself as a caring, kind, loving, deeply devoted, loyal, intelligent, passionate human being. I would help anyone I could and not hesitate in acting out of empathy for another human being. I do not trust easily but in stages but once my trust is offered it will be the best trust you can have. I will take a bullet without hesitation for those I love and fight for the rights of others. I will not stand by the sidelines and when I am in I am in for the long run. I will support others and share in their journey. I will value who they are and meet them best I can where they are at. I will not and have never abandoned those I love and anyone I have made a commitment to and yet all but a few have abandoned me.

At times in my life this has been devastating. Even now as I put myself out there with my music, words and art those I love have abandoned me. Not all of course as my children and few others are there for the long run. Most of my family has offered no support in fact they have turned and ran the other way. Almost all my friends well at least I thought they were my friends have cut and run at some point and yet when this was done to them they knew the feeling, how painful it was and still will do it to others.

There is nothing more painful than watching the breakup of a family and the consequences that will follow when people stop trying, when they give up on the commitments and when they run away. The ripple effects of this will last for years to come but most that leave never see this only what they want for the moment. In fact most will not even acknowledge that they have abandoned those they said they loved and the justification they will use afterwards simply boggles my mind. Very few will ever admit they have done anything wrong.

Abandoning your children is the worst thing you can ever do and they will deal with this the rest of their lives so I hope the reason one leaves is worth it. To me it never will be.

The list I have personally is huge and yet I keep trying, keep trusting and offering who I am when I know that most of the time I will be fucked over.

Again I tell this to relate to others not to get sympathy.

My dad left basically never to be seen or heard from again when I was 8 years old.

My mom while trying to do her best as this was a hard time for her left me in an institution for emotionally disturbed children at this time. 3 months of hell and then later shipped to my grandmas for a year of hell. My brother did his best but he was not in the position to take me. Friends, girlfriends and now the most important person in the world to me and this is the short list.

Yet I still put myself out there because what I have learned out of all of this is that it was not me. I was not the problem they were but it took a long time to get there and I am a strong person so imagine those that are not and what they will go through.. Just because many consider me the black sheep and see it as a negative that is their issue not mine..

Being abandoned or given up is the most devastating emotion we can cause in another human being. While your reasons may be justified to you if you have done this I will have a hard time agreeing.

Seek the truth always

Gary David Currie

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Who Hijacked Reality / #216 How to properly have an argument / debate

Saturday, October 9th, 2010

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Journal Entry # 216

October 9th, 2010

Since one of my overall goals is to debate and engage in positive communication with people all over the world I would hope that I at the very least would know how to follow a structure to do this. Sadly I find that the vast majority of people I have been talking with do not know how to do this.

The idea is to set up a premise or a beginning argument. You then flow from this original statement making a point and then counterpoint while all the time staying on topic. What happens with most people is that they very early involve their emotions. Now of course I use my emotions as well but the idea is to not let them get the best of you. Very quickly the topic gets lost and they are all over the place. I try to bring them back but it is usually futile.

The idea is to also back up what you say with reason or facts demonstrated using credible evidence. This also rarely happens. The other thing that annoys me especially using the internet is that people are constantly telling me to go to this link or read this. I want to hear what they have to say. Sometimes it is necessary to verify something but at least make a point before you tell me to go to this link or that link.

It is also very important to have a common understanding of terminology that is being used this way we are not talking two different languages. I try very hard to establish this but again it is very difficult because on the topics I debate this will force people to step out of their comfort zone.

The last and most important point is to not get angry and let your emotions take over. This will often lead to insults and degrading comments. This accomplishes nothing positive.

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I was engaged in discussions with several people who were demonstrating all of the things I mentioned above not to do. Finally someone jumped in to offer me support.

Gary

 Please hang in…

 I have got flamed by these guys many times but I respect the passion and energy as it beats the alternative.

 I don’t think the words and manners matter too much as long as we get listened too, although that is in question more than it should be.

 Points are not made well… more bullets on the position followed by explanation and support would help.

 The issue is what you said last… “”Like I said we still have not as a group agreed upon a definition of your fundamental title truth seekers. Again I ask and look for agreement from all

What is truth and how do we determine what is true and what is not?””

I think Its due to the fact we have 80% of the site mainly interested in proving a position on religion and less interested in the future quest for fact based truth.. This subject matter will be indeterminate by nature. They emotionally own this site and go off on that topic on whim

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Here is definitely what not to do in an argument.

If you don’t answer the <many expletives> question I’m going to <argh!!!> have you banned! (i have no power, this means nothing just exerting my frustration with functionally illiterate morons who don’t know their own stupidity and won’t take help when it’s slapped across their face)

Man! Some people’s kids!

When you say creationism “is total nonsense”, is that also making equivalent claims of certainty as you blame ______ for (feel free to take the question as a statement, whatever works for you)?

ANSWER THE DAMN QUESTION OR STOP POSTING! (on other mediums there is usually an option to ignore someone, this is not available here, so we have to act with respect, i am asking you for the, uhm, well, more than once to please answer each individual question with respect or stop trolling)

I would urge those who like to argue to learn the overall structure of an argument. I urge you to properly learn how to argue. I am by no means an expert on this but I have found a style that works for me within the framework of a proper argument. It will actually benefit you as you will be able to complete an argument where you can learn  and explore life.

Seek the truth always

Gary David Currie

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