Journal Entry #630
December 16th, 2011
At times it seems that nothing seems to go our way that something is plotting against us and that life is trying to beat us up and kick us when we are down. I have no idea why this happens if there is an actual cause or if it is just the way life works but it is during these time that we look for answers as to why things are going as we see it wrong. This is the time we need to do our best to get through seek out answers that are true to the best of our knowledge and do our best to move on dealing with what is in our control.
My son had a car accident last night and it was a good one. He is fine and that is what must be the focus. We can always get another car but not another son. It is times like this that we should pause and see the value in what we have, in what we can loose and what is truly important. Some may do this and others may just focus on the negatives. I will choose to be thankful for what I do have.
Is there something trying to direct our lives, to tell us a message to correct an unbalance in the natural order or is it that shit just happens?
Often it takes these events to give us a smack and let us know we need to readjust, to take stock of our lives and to move on in a direction that is not the one we are taking. This is a crucial time as I feel that most people when this happens focus on the wrong things tending to look for a solution that is truly not the right one and to blame others and life for what they should be taking responsibility for. We must pause and say what do I have that I am not valuing right now, doesn’t matter what the negatives are as we can let them become our focus what matters is what I don’t want to lose. Think about whom if they died you would be in terrible pain, who you would miss and then just get on with the positives in life. Yes of course we have to deal with any problems we have created and the consequences of our actions but if you focus on these positives the solutions and the way you deal with the perceived terrible things in your life will all seem trivial. Value the people your truly love as they cannot be replaced but all things can.
No matter what you are going through, no matter how bad the situation seems, no matter the problems you face they can all be overcome. Anything you felt as a negative should take on new meaning once this is realized and you should find yourself seeing life with different eyes, eyes that are clear and eyes that have true hope. The problems you have been running from, not wanting to deal with or that seem overwhelming will be nothing to overcome.
We often travel down a path of avoidance that leads us in making bad decisions that we think ar good ones at the time and no one can tell us any different. It shouldn’t but it often takes a traumatic event in ones life to bring this to light. Again this is where it becomes crucial that we do not keep running but think that we are not as one
must always go back and face the problems that brought us there in the first place.
Take a marriage for example there are always points where things become overwhelming and the act of living gets in the way of what should be important. Then the blame and dislike start to creep in and eventually the hate takes over as the wall is built. Now I am not referring to a relationship of continual violence and controlling behaviour but to just the average couple who just gets beat up at times by what life dishes out. It is at this point that it would be wise to see the things that they saw in each other when they first got married, to focus on the love they had and when this is done the other problems start to fall into place for what they truly are just problems that life hands us daily.
It is so easy to comfort yourself and hide from what one must face but again these issues and problems will have to be faced no matter what so why not do it together then when tragedy strikes there will be strength for all. When we have those close calls we will rally around those we love and deal with what life throws at us.
Secrets and lies kill in life and they are often the product of our imagination as the reality of the situation is usually nowhere close to the fantasy that we build to protect ourselves during the tough times in life.
So take pause in your life, be thankful for what you do have, for what you do not want to lose and let down those walls. If you have taken the time to build lives with people think hard about them on a daily basis to what is really important and don’t let life separate you from this. Nothing will be stronger in the end.