Journal Entry #618
November 21st 2011
In life there is what we want and what we need in life. Can we ever get what we want because the moment we get it we no longer want it we now want something else.
Often what we want is a fantasy that we can never get. We have a vision of what life will be like at certain times and fantasize as to what the future will be like. I would say rarely does it ever work out that way as life gets in the way.
We all seem to want happiness and yet I would think that the happiness we seek is not what usually makes us happy. Happiness like all things happens in moments.
So what does this mean in our lives?
It means that we must constantly adjust our wants along the way. Personally I believe that we must define these wants by 2 guidelines, they must be realistic and attainable. This certainly limits our possibilities because we have very little if any control of our lives. The best we can do is influence when we can and hope that things go our way, in other words we need some luck.
There are certainly things we can do to improve the odds in getting what we want but there is definitely no guarantee.
Many people seem to have wants or goals that are not realistic or attainable and base their life’s on these wants. They will surely be disappointed.
So much misery has at its core how we go about getting what we want.
So might I suggest that we base our wants on how life works how reality works and enjoy the moments of happiness that are realistic and attainable. This would surely alleviate much of the disappointment we often feel in our life’s.
Life can be fantastic at times, miserable at times and everything in-between but if you can find someone who is willing to share these moments with you then you will surely attain those moments of happiness. If you are happy being alone then I hope you find it this way as well but I would bet that the vast majority of us want to be able to share them as I believe the most important thing we can do to obtain happiness is to value others and in turn we get what we give.